A quote someone gave me recently. I don't know who the originator was.
With everything that has happened to us, we can either feel sorry for ourselves, or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep us from growth. We get to choose.
Sounds good, but just maybe it depends on our circumstances and the depth and nature of what we are dealing with, our loss. Maybe not quite as clear cut as it appears.